Feelings are "mentionable," and whatever is "mentionable" can be more manageable. Whether we're children or adults, adding to our emotional vocabulary can often add to our ability to cope with what we're feeling. Using words to describe what's inside helps remind us that what we're experiencing is human...and mentioning our feelings to others can make those feelings more manageable. Often, problems are knots with many strands, and looking at those strands can make a problem seem different. We'd all like to feel self-reliant and capable of coping with whatever adversity comes our way, but that's not how most human beings are made. It's my belief that the capacity to accept help is inseparable from the capacity to give help when our turn comes to be strong. When I was a child and would see scary things on the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping." One of my wise teachers, Dr. Orr, told me, "There is only one thing evil cannot stand, and that is forgiveness."