How to Talk With Your Kids About the Recent Events

A Special Update from Sesame Workshop

"In times like these, young children need the security of their routines and assurance that they are loved and in a secure place," advises Dr. Charlotte Cole, Vice President of Education and Research at Sesame Workshop, the company that produces Sesame Street, Dragon Tales and Sagwa the Chinese Siamese Cat. "In addition, parents should try to minimize young children's access to the news media."

For school-aged children, it's important to keep the lines of communication open. Dr. Cole suggests that parents can help children cope with stress by engaging them in activities that will benefit others in need. Children this age may ask tough questions. "When talking about the events, parents should keep in mind their child's age and personality and feel confident that they know their child best," reports Dr. Cole. "Initiate a conversation by first finding out exactly what your child knows. Provide reassurance of your family's security. You might say, 'Everyone is doing as much as they can to keep you safe,' and give examples."

The Education and Research Group at Sesame Workshop offers tips below for parents whose families were not directly affected by these recent events. Families that were directly affected may need help from a professional.

Tips for Parents

• First, reassure yourself that you will do the best you can to keep everyone safe. Be aware that at times like this, children of any age may want and need close contact with you. Spend as much time as you can with your child.

• You should stay calm, but it is OK to show emotion about the events. However, try not to "unravel" as this could exacerbate your child's fears.

• When you talk with your older child, do not lie or pretend these events didn't happen. That would jeopardize the trusting relationship you have with your child.