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  • GO"My mom is always spending time with my 2 little brothers even though I'm her only daughter. We never get to talk about mother/daughter stuff. How can I find a way to talk to my mom and spend more one-on-one time with her?"

  • GO"I just learned about puberty, getting your period and other things like shaving and growing breasts. I'm excited for these things to happen to me so I can feel more grown up. I think I'm way too young to be starting these things and I'm afraid my parents think the same. I always get my courage worked up to talk to my mom and then it goes away. I try writing letters to my mom but she still hasn't talked to me about it yet. When I ask her to bring me to the store to buy a bra, she thinks I'm kidding. I think I need one because I feel self-conscious about my body if I don't have one on. I really need help talking to my mom. What should I do?"

  • GO"My mom only lets me watch baby stuff, like Dora, Teletubbies, and Dragon Tales. I really want mom to let me watch older shows. What should I do?"

  • GO"I think my mom hates me. She really never spends time with me and when she angry she calls me a mistake and calls me names. Also lately she’s become very mean and gives me a glare every time I walk past her. What should I do to make her not so mean anymore and make her like me again?"

  • GO"My parents just got a divorce and every weekend we switch off (my mom's weekend one week and my dad's weekend the next week). I live with my mom and I hate going over to my dad's house, but I don't want to tell him that I don't like coming over because I don't want to hurt his feelings. Please tell me what to do!"

  • GO"I can never talk to my mom about anything! If I tell her something she ends up telling her friends and my dad and everyone. How can I stop my mom from telling everyone my feelings?"

  • GO"I broke my parents' trust. Now they won't let me back online, just because someone on my friends list was not who they said they were. I don't think I did anything wrong, but I'm being punished for it. What can I do to earn back my parents' trust?"

  • GO"When my parents get angry at me, they call me names like "a good for nothing" and "useless" and it really hurts. And sometimes it's not even my fault or they're being unreasonable. What should I do?"

  • GO"My parents are 'taking a break' and each night I cry, even when my dad calls to read me and my brother a story. I don't want to tell him I cry every night but it's bringing me and my mom pain."

  • GOMy parents are so controlling and never let me make my own decisions. This summer they are making me go to stupid camps and I don't have a choice. It's just so hard because I know they love me...and they wanna help me not be alone all summer...but it's driving me crazy! This summer I planned on hanging out with friends and going in my pool. I hate this! Please help me. I'm miserable!

  • GOI am 13 and my mom is always trying to butt into my life! I know sheis just trying to help but she always asks me, Are you and your friends fighting? Why aren't you hanging out with so-and-so this weekend? It gets so annoying! I told her that I would tell her when I want to talk but she still doesn't listen! I have a boyfriend and she is afraid we're going to go too far too young! I tell her that I can make my own decisions and that I know what is too far but she still doesn't trust me with it. What should I do?

  • GOMy mom doesn't trust my friends. She doesn't let me go to their houses and she doesn't let them come to mine. She asks me about how good their grades are and stuff, but I don't want to tell her because she tells me to make new friends if they don't get good grades! She's always worried about this stuff and never let me sleep over at their houses! I am seriously stressed out about this because I'm always alone on the weekends!!!! I need to make her trust my friends, I need to tell her that I DO KNOW how to make good friends!

  • GOOkay, so I am 9 and my parents will not let me have a sleepover. I mean, what is up with that? My older sister is 14 and has sleepovers all the time. Please help me make my parents trust me to have a sleepover! THANKS!

  • GOI caught my MOM reading my DIARY!!!!! It has all my problems and crushes in it. Can you please give me some advice?

  • GOMy dad has anger problems. He gets mad at someone and takes it out on the whole family. Just 5 minutes ago, I was getting gum and I heard my dad say to my mom, "Why'd you let her put the blank on in there?" (Blank means an inappropriate word.) He was so mad I started crying and said, "You obviously don't care about how I feel, so just watch what you want!" I was giving him what he wanted, yet he yelled "TURN IT DOWN!" Every night I cry myself to sleep because I don't know what tomorrow will bring. Then he acts all lovey-dovey and then he gets all mad again. What should I do?

  • GOMy parents have been fighting so much lately. I'm always scared because I'm afraid something bad will happen. I don't want it to affect school. I don't want to lose another father, or my little sister to have the same problem. What can I do?

  • GOPLEASE HELP ME. My mom isn't letting me go to a school dance, and she won't tell me why! I think she's worried that I might do drugs or something, but I SWEAR TO ANYTHING I WILL NEVER EVER DO THAT. And my parents know so, they trust me. But they never let me go to dances and I'm in grade 9!!! How can I make them change their minds?

  • GO"My mom just had a baby. He cries a lot and she ignores me! What should I do?"

  • GOI feel like I am to blame for my parents getting separated. They have been separated since I was 10. I feel like now I don't exist in their worlds. All the attention goes to my brother and sister. What should I do with this problem? mom!

  • GOMy mom is SO annoying. My friend's mom is SO awesome; my friend can tell her mom ANYTHING. I can't talk to my mom about personal stuff like guys that I think are hot and other girl stuff, if u know what I mean. She always bothers me about celebs that I like. Even if I did talk to her, she would tell my dad everything that I told her and he would bother me about it. Other than not being able to talk to her about certain stuff, she's a great mom!

  • GOMy parents don't listen to me. They don't take my opinions into consideration AT ALL! When I ask if they are even listening to what I am saying, they say they are, but they don't understand that hearing what I'm saying and respecting my opinions are two totally different things. I don't care if they agree with me, but when I try to talk things out with them, they are planning what they will ground me from or what they will say to me after I'm finished AS I AM SPEAKING! They don't let me explain my actions and it hurts me! When I try to explain why I feel neglected and ignored by them, they just ground me for a few weeks. How can I confront them and tell them to listen without being punished unreasonably? Help!

  • GO"My parents are pushing me WAY too much. I do well in school and am in many advanced classes. I used to play piano, but I had too many other commitments. I play volleyball almost year-round, and at the moment I am not doing so now. It's almost the end of the school year, so I want that time to study for finals, but my parents keep pushing me to play volleyball, get a job, take more advanced classes, and do well in all of them! What should I do?!"

  • GO"I have a disabled sib; he has autism. But at home I think he's just my bro. My parents don't. They think the world revolves around him. When I talk to them about it they say that I'm being dramatic and that I want the world to revolve around me! They've tried to explain to me that he has a disability and I know that. I'm never alone with them so I can't do anything without him coming and messing it up! How can I get them to understand that all I want is a little more attention without being rude or whiny?"

  • GOI have 2 baby sisters and a toddler brother whos a handful. I am the good kid but Im the one whos blamed if my folks dont get enough sleep, Im the one whos always sweared at and Im the one who gets in trouble for no reason whatsoever! Anyway, I really would love it if you could give me some advice.

  • GOI just turned 13 and I am so loving it. But it's not fair that my parents are always over my shoulder! I think that if they could, they would strap a video camera to my head and let me walk around with it all day. Whenever I come home from school my dad calls me and asks me like a billion questions like: What took you so long to get home? or Did you see any boys today? I mean REALLY! What should I do?

  • GOI am in 7th grade. At the end of last year, my mom got me a bra. But it was just a plain cotton one. I want push-up bras or ones that aren't boring like cotton. All my friends have them. I don't know how to ask my mom because she's not that easy to talk to about these things. In 5th grade, I asked her about getting a bra and she said that I didn't need one yet. I guess I am just afraid of being turned down.

  • GOMy dad eats a lot of bad food. My family tells him that it is bad for him, but he doesn't listen. I'm afraid he is going to die. What should I do?

  • GOHi, I really love my mom. But, she loves my hair long. I am really tired of it. The same old everyday. I am ready to make a change. I feel I am responsible enough to get my hair cut. How can I convince her that I want my hair cut, without hurting her feelings?

  • GOI live with only my dad (my mom's dead) and I want a bra but I'm embarrassed to ask my dad to get me one. If I get one without his permission and he finds out, he'll be angry and ask me questions, like why I thought I needed a bra. I wouldn't be comfortable talking to him about that kind of stuff! I've asked someone else for advice and they said to write him a letter, but it didn't work. What should I do?

  • GOI really want to babysit these 2 kids in my neighborhood. They don't even live far away, just 3 houses down. Their parents have asked me a couple of times. But I had to refuse because my parents think it's too dangerous, even though I'll be around the neighborhood! I want to make some money to buy things not only for myself, but for presents. My 11-year-old friend Sara babysits. Why can't I? How can I convince them?

  • GOOkayMy dad is into God and all, but I just dont believe in the same things. How do I tell my dad that I dont want to go to church? He says I dont have to go, but the alternative is being grounded for a week! I dont know what to do. The more I go to church, the more I know its not right for me.

  • GOI went to school in the 2nd grade and now I'm in the 5th. I've been home schooled most all my life. I want to go to school again and get friends cause I dont have many. But my mom says I'm the same boy cause I was a troublemaker but I'm not. I've changed a lot. How do I get her to let me? Thanks.

  • GOMy mom seems really depressed. When I come home from school, she's crying. And that makes me want to cry, too. I've already had a bad day! I lost my crush to someone else, my teacher's mean, and now I have to listen to this! It makes me sad and I hate it. She doesn't have the energy to do things around the house. Last night my dad had to cook dinner because my mom was crying herself to sleep on the couch. I give her a hug and tell her I love her, but that doesn't seem to make things better. What should I do?

  • GOMy parents are so overprotective! They won't let me get a cell phone. They think that it's way too expensive and I don't need one because there's always pay phones. Well, I have been researching phones for about a YEAR and I found that there are some REALLY CHEAP phones. But they don't care. And where I live, there are almost NO payphones. Everyone has a cell phone. They think that I will call bad people. I'm only going to use it for emergencies, talk to my parents, and MAYBE call my friends. But any time I talk to them about getting one they just laugh and think that I am joking. It makes me feel REALLY small.

  • GOI want to wear two-piece bathing suits but my parents told me that I'm 'too young to show that much skin.' How can I convince them that I'm old enough to wear them?

  • GOMy mom and everybody in my family thinks I'm crazy! I tell them that someday I will run for first woman president of the U.S.A., and that I will be something bigand then they start laughing. I just wish they could know that they are hurting my feelings. Please help me!

  • GOMe and my older sister both play soccer. Sometimes my parents set high goals for me so I can be as good as my sister. How can I be as good as her?

  • GOA few years ago, I begged my mom to get me a doll that everyone had. Now, I never touch it, even though it was very expensive. My mom now wants to take me to a place in New York thats all about the doll: American Girl Place. Since I never play with my doll, I don't want to waste $500 on a trip there. My mom is all excited about it. Should I go or not?

  • GOMy parents always talk to me about embarrassing things in public. Like when were in a restaurant, my mom just starts talking about 'growing up,' if you know what I mean. I hate it when they do that. Even when I tell them this, they still do it. How can I get them to stop?

  • GOLast spring my dad was having some problems. He didn't really have a good childhood and I don't know, he was kind of depressed and he went away and spent a month away from the family to 'sort things out.' When he came back at the beginning of the summer he seemed fine. But lately it seems like things are going back to the way they were, and he and my mom are spending a lot of time talking. I'm afraid that the same thing is going to happen again and I'm scared. What should I do?

  • GOI never feel safe to express my feelings to my parents or sitting down and spending time with them. I need some help!

  • GOMy mom has made me play piano for 9 years. I hate it, and I've told her that lots of times. She says its good for me. I believe her, but I don't want to play piano, I want to play the guitar. I own a guitar and I play it often. My mom says I can start another instrument, only I can't stop piano. Help me please!!!!

  • GOMy mom wont let me go shopping at the mall, but all my friends and I want to go. What do I do to get my mom to let me go?

  • GOMy parents put a lot of pressure on me. I get good grades in school, but sometimes I feel like even A's and B's aren't enough for them. I still have to go to bed at 9pm, and they won't let me get instant messenger or go to any chat rooms or anything. It's almost as if they are trying to keep me a little kid. How can I express to them that I want to be able to grow up without feeling guilty?

  • GOI think I have a singing/acting talent that I take seriously, but no one else will! Not even my parents! How do make people take my interests seriously?

  • GOMy mom doesn't want me in chat rooms. I like to go to chat rooms because it's fun to talk to other kids. I would never ever meet a perfect stranger in real life if I only talked to them in a chat room. And if someone makes me feel uncomfortable, I know that I should ignore that person and leave. I'm old enough and know all the safety precautions and stuff. How can I tell her that I'm old enough to just chat with other kids?

  • GOMy dad has gone out of town, which causes my mom loneliness even though I'm there. Recently she started college again, but that just passes the loneliness to me because on July 4th she had homework and that made
    her tired. A few neighbors were popping fireworks and I wanted my mom to see them but she didn't, and that made me feel like we were from different planets. In other words, we aren't spending much time together. What should I do?

  • GOI feel I am a very responsible person, and I believe that I am capable of taking care of a dog, but my parents don't approve. How can I get their approval?

  • GOJust like Nancy, one of my parents passed away (my dad), and now my mom is going out with a longtime friend of the family. I've talked to my mom and now she knows how I feel, but I just don't think she knows how much pain she's causing me. I just get so mad sometimes I want to cry.

  • GOMy mom is a very beautiful person. But ever since she remarried, she's changed. I don't like my stepfather because he is mean to me when we are alone. My mom has changed and now she's mean too. The only time I don't feel pressured is in school. I don't feel good at home. I'm afraid to talk to my mom about it. What should I do?

  • GOMy mom wont let me dress a certain way. Shes always telling me to be myself and to be original, but when I do she always tells me to go change.

  • GOBrianna, Tamara, and Janelle all need advice on how to get their parents permission to start dating.

  • GOMy mom passed away, and my dad has been talking about dating lately. I don't want him to date, but I haven't told him this because I don't feel comfortable talking to him. He met a woman and they've been going steady. I don't like her and I haven't told him. The weird thing is that she is my best friend's aunt!!!!

  • GO"My parents won't listen to me when I say that they can die from smoking. What can I do?"

  • GO"We recently moved, and I'm not happy with the people or the location of my new home, and I need some time for just my mom and me. How do I approach my mom in a way that she doesn't feel criticized?"

  • GO"My parents won't let me see a movie that I want to see really bad. What should I do?"

  • GO"I want a raise on my allowance, but my mom won't even talk about it with me! I'm only asking for a $5 raise! What should I do?"

  • GO"My parents are divorced and I live with my Dad. When I visit my Mom, I try to talk to her about me not wanting to live with her, and she keeps saying that I can't stay with my Dad all my life. What should I do? I don't want to hurt her feelings."

  • GO"I can't talk to my parents about anything. I am an only child and often feel lonely. My parents are overprotective (they watch the news too much) and they have weird superstitions that something will happen to me. I feel like I am in a cage. I can't talk to anyone about it. Plz give me some advice on what to do."

  • GO"My parents are way too protective. They won't let me have a spare key, they won't let me stay home alone, AND they won't let me have a sleepover without a month's notice! Help! How can I prove to them that I can do all this stuff?"

  • GO"I can't talk to my mom or dad about grades. If I get an F
    my mom will flip out. What should I do?"

  • GO"Every teacher has high expectations for me. My parents make me work way too hard. Recently, I got a 90% on my math test and my parents nearly blew the roof."

  • GOSeveral of you had questions about how to handle it when your parents argue or call each other names in front of you.

  • GO"My mom smokes way too much. She says she has it under control, but I think she's wrong. I don't want her to get sick and die, and now my friends say her breath smells. How can I tell her how I feel?"

  • GO"My mom doesn't want me to go to middle school. Instead, she wants me to go to a Christian school. I really would like to stay with all of my friends. How do I talk to her about this?"


Dear IML,
I can't talk to my parents about anything. I am an only child and often feel lonely. My parents are overprotective (they watch the news too much) and they have weird superstitions that something will happen to me. I feel like I am in a cage. I can't talk to anyone about it. Plz give me some advice on what to do.
--Rifat, 11

An expert responds:
From Deborah Hardy, President, New York State School Counselor Association

Dear Rifat,
Overprotection happens when parents are not secure about the outside world and, as you mentioned, are affected a little too deeply by what they see in the media. There are several options that will help you "break the box". I would encourage you to begin doing more with your parents outside the house such as going to the mall, restaurants, etc., so they can observe for themselves what's really there. The other is to establish a plan of communication if you go out. What I mean is that if you want to go to a friend's house for the afternoon, let your parents know that you'll be in touch with them once you get there and then as you leave, unless they can pick you up. This lets them be a little more comfortable in knowing where you are and what you're doing. It may be embarrassing at first, but it does work and gives your parents a little more security that you are fine.

The IML Mentors respond:

Dear Rifat,
I know exactly how you feel. I constantly feel that I can't talk to my parents, and I too feel very alone sometimes because of it. If you have any close relatives, I would suggest talking to them about it, or better yet, sit down and try to have an adult conversation with your parents. That's what I did and it really helped our relationship b/c I think it helped prove to them I was mature. Nothing bad can come out of this. They are your parents and all they want is for you to be happy and safe. If they knew you were feeling this way, they would do anything to help you feel better. Good luck!
--Lindsey, IML Mentor

Dear Rifat,
It can be really hard to talk to your parents, especially when they are stubborn or overprotective. But, as much as you dread talking to them, you need to let them know how you feel. Next time you want to do something and they won't let you do it, try to reason with them and find a middle ground. It may help if you try to see where they're coming from, and in return ask them to understand how you feel. If you don't want to talk to them, you can always write a letter or ask a close relative to talk to your mom or dad. I also had the same problem with my parents. I always felt like they were more strict than my friends' parents, and that made me really annoyed. We were able to compromise once I opened up to them about how I felt. I hope you can do the same thing. Good Luck!
--Jenna, IML Mentor

Dear Rifat,
I was an only child 'til I was almost ten years old. My parents were very protective also. They always had to know where I was and who I was with. I felt lonely too, and I found that writing in a journal helped me to not feel so lonely. Although it doesn't take the place of a person, writing helped me (and still does) when I need to get things "off my chest." Perhaps you can write your parents a letter explaining to them how you feel and if you feel comfortable, maybe even writing a possible solution or idea to improve how you feel. Then you might be able to talk to them. I know how impossible it may seem to talk to your parents, but they're people too, and they will listen. Just give them the chance. Good Luck!
--Leah, IML Mentor

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Dear IML,
My parents are way too protective. They won't let me have a spare key, they won't let me stay home alone, AND they won't let me have a sleepover without a month's notice! Help! How can I prove to them that I can do all this stuff?
--Dolly, 11

An expert responds:
From Robin Shlien, M.A., M.F.T

Dear Dolly,
First of all, try not to insist that because your friends are allowed to do certain things, you should too. Instead, try communicating to them how it makes you feel. For example, maybe their overprotective attitude makes you frustrated, or it makes you feel like they don't want you to grow up and learn to be responsible. Then, give your parents a chance to let you know how they feel in return. Consider asking them what makes them uncomfortable about leaving you alone. When everyone talks openly about their feelings, it can open a lot of doors. You're on the right track by wanting to prove to them that you can do this stuff. Perhaps you and your parents can work together to come up with a compromise - perhaps there is something that you can do to show them that you're ready to take on more responsibility. Good luck!

The IML Mentors respond:

Dear Dolly,
It can be frustrating trying to demonstrate to your parents that you're ready for more responsibilities. Even though I'm legally an adult (I'm 19) my dad always knows where I am. I think that part of being responsible is telling someone where you are. You could make sure that you do your chores and help out with housework without being asked (and that includes doing your homework without being reminded to). Another thing that you could do is to talk to your parents and discuss with them how you're feeling. Don't expect a dramatic change overnight, but if you're acting responsible (not whining), they may be more likely to reevaluate their policies. Good Luck!
--Leah, IML Mentor

Dear Dolly,
Trust me, I know how you feel. My parents are very overprotective too. I learned a good thing from this. I sat down with them and talked about how I felt and tried to come up with some compromises. This showed them that I was mature and could handle more than they thought I could. Don't give up on them and keep on talking to them so they trust you, and eventually they'll loosen up.
--Lindsey, IML Mentor

Dear Dolly,
What your parents are doing shows that they care for you a lot. My parents were always very protective of me. I'm sixteen, but I'm barely ever allowed to stay out past eleven. It really bothers me sometimes, but I just remember that they're giving me rules because they care. My advice to you is to sit down and talk to your parents. They should know how you feel. They won't necessarily give you all freedom, but maybe you can reach a compromise to make both of you happy.
--Danielle, IML Mentor

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Dear IML,
I can't talk to my mom or dad about boys or even my school grades. If I get an F they will flip out. What should I do?
--Sally, 10

An expert responds:
From Faye Terrebonne Arco, M.Ed., Drug Prevention School Safety Specialist, PPS - School Counseling

Dear Sally,
I'm sorry that it's so hard for you to talk to your mom or dad. Maybe you're worrying about how your parents are going to react because you don't know how to start the conversation. I have two suggestions for you:

  1. Timing is everything. Pick a time when your parents are not tired, angry about something else, or too busy. Ask for a half-hour of their time to talk about something that's very important to you. Ask them if the meeting can happen in a private place with just you and them present. If it's too difficult to ask them directly, why not write a note asking for the appointment? Once your parents have agreed to a date and time for the meeting, be prepared to bring up one of your concerns or questions. Sometimes, an index card can help you remember what you want to say. Sally, the first time is the hardest, but as you open the communication door, it will get easier and easier. I think that your parents are your best advisors and would like you to give them a chance.

  2. If you need support in talking to your parents, please consider talking first to your school counselor, religious leader, or a trusted teacher. Ask him or her to help you plan and practice the meeting with your parents. I have often pretended to be a parent for one of my students so the student could try out his or her ideas before actually talking to a parent. This trusted adult may also be willing to set up the first meeting for you and help you get through it.

Good Luck, Sally! You can do it.

The IML Mentors respond:

Hey Sally,
'School' and 'boys' are something we all think about, except in my case I think about girls :). You have to remember that your parents are people you can always count on, so the best thing to do is try to talk to them, and ask them just to hear you out. Good luck! :)
--Jaron, IML Mentor

Dear Sally,
Even though I am really close to my parents, I still have trouble talking to them about my boy problems. Maybe you can try talking to your parents about how you feel, and tell them that you want to talk to them about these kinds of things, but you are too scared about the way they will handle it. Maybe you can try easing into the subject. I don't know what kinds of things you want to talk about with your parents about boys, but try thinking of "light" questions, and hopefully they will slowly get comfortable with talking about boys. I think it's a great thing that you want to become closer to your parents. DON'T GIVE UP! Good luck!
--Jenna, IML Mentor

See how other kids talk to their folks about their grades in You Said It: Reporting Bad Grades.

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Dear IML,
I am like, a straight A student. Every teacher has high expectations for me. My parents make me work way too hard. Recently, I got a 90% on my Math test and my parents nearly blew the roof. I try telling them not to make me so nervous. I feel kind of low 'cause I want to make them happy. I don't want to hurt their feelings. What should I do???
--Kori, 11

An expert responds:
From Faye Terrebonne Arco, M.Ed., Drug Prevention School Safety Specialist, PPS - School Counseling

Dear Kori,
You are not alone. Many parents want the best for their children and sometimes push too hard. Many teachers want smart students to shine. It may be time for you to get some help with this situation. I'm concerned about you feeling low, and feeling that you must please everyone. Please consider scheduling an appointment with your school counselor or a trusted teacher to discuss your feelings.

Of course, you want your parents to be proud of you, but the most important thing is how you feel about yourself. Perhaps your parents don't understand how you truly feel. Ask your parents for a meeting. Explain that you want to do your best and that you don't want to hurt them, but that you're nervous from all of the pressure. Tell them you are grateful that they care so much about you. Ask them to help you feel better. You may have to give them examples (like the 90% on the Math test), and you may have to talk to them several times. Kori, there's an old saying that goes: "To whom much is given, much is expected." It sounds to me like you are a very smart and capable student. Taking the pressure off you is important, but doesn't mean you shouldn't do your best. You may want to check the library for two books:

For You: Fighting Invisible Tigers- A Stress Management Guide for Teens by Earl Hipp

For Your Parents: Perfectionism: What's Bad About Being Too Good by Miriam Adderhead-Elliot and Jan Goldberg

The IML Mentors respond:

Dear Kori,
When I was younger, I had the exact same problem as you do. I had pretty good grades, and I felt that if I did worse than an A-, my parents would freak out. The truth is, parents usually care more about the effort than the actual grade itself. It doesn't matter if you get A's, as long as you're trying. If they do seem to care more about the grade than what you're doing to get it, you should sit down and talk with them about your feelings. They will listen!
--Jordan, IML Mentor

Dear Kori,
You might want to let your parents know that you work really hard in school but it doesn't come easy to you. I think your parents will understand where you're coming from, and maybe they will be more supportive in helping you with your homework, or finding you a good tutor. Your parents should never make you feel bad about not getting amazing grades. All that matters is that you try hard. If you feel like your parents are refusing to lighten up on you, try talking to a teacher and tell him/her what's going on with your parents. Maybe that teacher can talk to your parents and help them realize that they should encourage you despite the A or B. I hope it works out!
--Jenna, IML Mentor

Dear Kori,
I understand how you feel about that sort of pressure concerning grades. In some sense, my parents are JUST like yours: they get a little bit greedy sometimes. When I get a bunch of perfect scores for Math, they expect a constant flow of A's to follow. And very often, it's the same case with my teachers: they want me to sort of "keep the standard." When things get slightly harder and I don't perform that well, they get so disappointed that it makes me feel guilty. I've got to tell you, though, that this is not the correct attitude. Never let yourself get lost in grades. Things will get more and more negative if you just let parents/teachers push you around. Try to grab the control. Hopefully your parents will understand that your success doesn't come from straight A's, but from your strong belief in yourself.
--Joyce, IML Mentor

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